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Why Your Wife Doesn’t Trust, Respect, or Feel Attracted to You Like She Used To
Brother, I need you to be honest with yourself for a second. If you’re struggling in your marriage, if you feel like your wife doesn’t respect you, doesn’t trust you, or isn’t attracted to you the way she used to be… there’s a reason for it.
You might think you’re being a “good husband.” You do things for her. You avoid fights. You check in with her before making decisions. You try to make her happy.Â
But how can your wife…
- Feel safe with you when every time she expresses frustration, you shut down, get defensive, or try to avoid the conversation.
- Feel attracted to you when you fall apart when she’s not in a good mood.
- Respect you when she notices that you say one thing to her in private but change your stance when talking to your friends or family?
- Trust you when she sees that you are constantly deferring decisions to her.
- Feel safe with you when you stand there in silence while your friends or family disrespect her, leaving her to defend herself instead of knowing you have her back?
These are just some of the things you’ve probably been doing that have eroded your wife’s trust, respect, and attraction.
It’s because you are not leading.
It’s because you are not being real.
It’s because you are not a man she can trust to respond instead of react and stay grounded under stress or discomfort.Â
You’ll never feel like a confident, respected man in your marriage if you keep reacting, avoiding, and refusing to take ownership.
And you’ll never have your wife’s attraction if you’re too afraid to be yourself, walking on eggshells around her, and letting her emotions control you instead of learning how to handle them with maturity.
I know this stings.Â
But I’m telling you this because I’ve been there.Â
I know that staying stuck in these patterns will only lead to one thing—a marriage where you feel powerless, unseen, and eventually, completely disconnected from your wife.
If you’re reading this and feeling called out, that's good.Â
That means you have a choice:Â
Stay the same and keep watching your marriage erode, or step up and learn how to become the grounded leader your wife, family, and YOU need.
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INTRODUCING
THE GROUNDED LEADER
Are You Ready to Step Into The Man You Were Meant To Be?
This 2 hour minute workshop will teach you how to become the emotionally grounded, confident leader your marriage, family, and life need. No more seeking validation. No more second-guessing. No more walking on eggshells.
You’ll learn:
- Tools to handle your emotions with maturity
- How to break free from the need for validationÂ
- What it takes to make aligned, confident decisions
Practicing what you learn in this workshop will rebuild trust, respect, and attraction in your marriage and change how you see yourself.—while making you the man you’re proud to be.
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Starts at 7:30 PM EST
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The Grounded Leader Workshop
In This Workshop I'll Cover...
The Grounded Leader
How It Works
In this workshop, I’ll dive into 60+ minutes of instruction followed by 30 minutes of hot seat coaching where I’ll bring you up to get coached LIVE on the call.
Coaching is on a first come first serve basis and it's 100% voluntary. You don't have to get coached. You'll still receive the instruction, tools, and strategies during the workshop.
In this workshop you'll learn:
- How your “Nice Guy” behavior undermines respect, attraction, and leadership
- Practical tools & embodiment practices to stay emotionally grounded.
- How to confidently make aligned decisions
- How to handle your wife’s emotions with confidence
- How to break free from the need for her validation.
The call will be recorded so even if you can’t attend live you’ll still get the instruction. AND joining live will allow you to get coached by me. This is where the information turns to transformation.
For that reason, it’s highly recommended that you attend live and you’ll get the most out of the workshop that way.
This Workshop Is For You If...
- You struggle to handle your wife’s emotions without shutting down or getting overwhelmed and/or defensive.
- You feel like you’re constantly tiptoeing around your wife’s moods.
- You say you’ll do things but often don’t follow through.
- You struggle to make decisions, so you either avoid deciding, defer to your wife, or second-guess yourself afterward.
- You want to have confidence in handling emotions—yours and hers—without feeling overwhelmed or controlled by them.
- You want your wife to respect, trust, and feel attracted to you again, but you don’t know how to turn things around.Â
HEY MY MAN
I'm Kevin Benevides
By my mid-20s, I had everything my family & society told me would make me happy: a wife, two kids, a dog, a house, and a steady job.
Everything looked perfect on the outside.
Internally, I was consumed by anxiety, constantly shaping myself to please others and avoid conflict. At home, my family got the brunt of my passivity, forcing my wife to lead our lives.
In 2013, a health crisis with my father brought everything to a breaking point. That storm forced me to confront the pain I had deep within and begin the work of healing.
At first, I thought my wife was the problem. But as we started couples therapy, I realized my "Nice Guy" was.
I had to face the fact that my patterns were breaking us apart.
Because of them, my wife felt unsupported and emotionally unsafe.
Transforming those patterns changed everything.
This year, we celebrated 20 years of marriage—stronger and healthier than ever.
When I look at my wife now, I see a woman who trusts me completely and feels safe to be herself with me. She knows exactly where I stand because I show up fully—no masks, no pretending, no guessing games.
At the same time, I feel confident enough to lean on her too. We share our feelings openly, and it’s brought us closer than I ever thought possible.
My journey inspired me to create The Canvas Within and step into coaching. Now, I use the lessons I’ve learned to help other men heal and break free from the same struggles, and become the man they’re meant to be. If you’re ready to change, I’m here to walk that path with you.
"After working with Kevin I have been able to live a life of truth & honesty. I’m able to be authentic and now have a better relationship with my fiance."
- Costas Cecero
"Kevin was imperitve in providing the skills necessary for me to handle conflict and he helped bring to the surface my authenticity."
-Â Mike Debnam
"After going through Kevin’s coaching program, I now have the much needed emotional tools & confidence that has strengthened my connection with my partner."
-Â Andrew Kalt
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